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i do what i want and tell brutal truths to people, they dont like it but thats their problem, if your ugly your ugly, you need to know it.

I’m experiencing exactly what you described in the video, so I feel seen. I was feeling lonely and that something is wrong with me, so I’ll always be this way and I don’t put myself out there because people aren’t gonna like me and I’m gonna always feel this way, so what’s the point. I’m 27, still don’t have friends because I’m so scared of putting myself out there and I’m losing hope. But this is giving me a bit of hope but I hope it’s not just another video I watch and in 5 years I’m still exactly where I am, being avoidant and my life shrinking and shrinking. I wanna change

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Thank you for this! I dislike certain coworkers who make me uncomfortable and felt like a bad person. But I have to be honest with my own mind and admit I HATE BEING AROUND THEM.

Plainly put, that voice is called Low Self-Esteem.

Decided to speak up to a bully and Nippet in the bud as I’m at a new job. I did it respectfully and even though she tried to gaslight me and be overly nice about it it doesn’t matter. At least she knows that I’m not gonna take it and will call her on. It felt great. The other alternative is to let it fester and make my life miserable. I’m not doing that anymore.

How to respond calmly when someone belittles you and says things intentionally to hurt or upset you ?? Its a power play , ...as if on a trip ? But how do we respond or keep our power coz ... Any response will give them something to extend or lower further??

Need to bring back the dislike button counter

La cosa più romantica che il mio partner può fare? Caricare la lavastoviglie senza che me lo chieda😛

Thanks for this I let my 10-year-old listen to this❤

hey, have you heard about eft tapping? It has helped me a lot with my social anxiety

I hope people one day realises that making some one feel left out is not okay. Grow up. Only because you are more popular than some others does not mean you can look down on others. We are all people and beautifull in our own way. So stop please.

I have a fear what negibours what they think if they hear my voice while I am working from home.

I've worked so hard at getting better at getting beyond this behavior. I rarely write on social media. I'm terrified to. But the other day, I felt comfortable enough to leave what I thought was a benign slightly contradictory perspective on a YT video from someone I really like and who's videos I almost universally agree with. I was challenged by a fellow commenter. I didn't think much of it and figured I just hadn't done a very good job of explaining myself so I clarified my position. When the second and third challenges came from the same person, each a little more aggressive, I freaked out and rather than hold my ground knowing it was my opinion and my truth, I deleted the original comment. I felt sick to my stomach that's all it took for me to fold. I've stopped sharing my opinion on almost any social media platform (or in real life) in fear someone will disagree. I will even go back and sift through anything I liked or past comments to delete them in case anyone ever runs across them and judges me for them. I will likely overthink this very comment and delete it. God, this sucks. I used to be so sure of myself. So courageous. But instead of having more courage as I get older, I find myself having less.

now show this video to a homeless guy.. good luck

I share too much.

Getting a No in November is a Yes

So let me get this straight, your message to other people, is that it's ok to not improve, it's ok for them to stay the way they are, it's ok for them to stay in there ignorance, it's ok for them to lie to themselves, it's ok for them to stay in their unhealthy habits. Do you realize how terrible that is? Everyone has flaws, and it seems most of us have grown to be ok with it, and tell others that it's ok to have flaws, the truth is, it's not, but in order for most of us to remain sane, we have to tell ourselves that lie, which in itself is a flaw.

Finding something that’s human, shared regardless of the situation helps me. But to say that one should feel as though they belong when they can’t respect the zeitgeist of the group is to for me, to force, and pretend myself into something that seems painfully foreign to me. I think about that movie where the Bush people were somehow crossing paths with modern industrialized people. One of the bushman was put in a jail. His soul so overcome with alienation and confusion, he refused to eat. He just couldn’t pretend. He was in such a Deeply foreign place that any reality that he understood was disintegrating, and he had nothing to trust, but his own understanding, with which he was entirely alone.

i learned this lesson a long time ago if i associate someone to negativity i label them a s vomit and i don't play with vomit i leave it in the ground, so i just move toward people that i associate to positivity i would much rather hang out with delicious ice cream. life is better with delicious ice cream

Thank you :)

So funny: I just watched another video on this, and the advice was completely opposite. 😂🤦🏻‍♂️ Walk away and take distance. And you say: step in and insert yourself.

Do hard things is an amazing way to boost self-esteem! I find this through doing harder and harder hikes!

I just had a run in with this... It finally just... Leaked out. My bday is in like... 4 days and my mom keeps trying to tell me what I want, what I'm supposed to want and I had enough. I'm tired of even my birthday just being a chance for her to throw a vaguely me themed party for my brothers. And me saying I didn't want her party because I'd rather hang out with my friends (all online, I don't have IRL friends) has me shaking... Like... I made her sad, that makes me bad. I didn't properly justify my emotions to make it good enough of a reason to get what I want. On my birthday! She goes on about, "Oh you never asked for things as a kid" and it's like... Yeah! You never gave me the things I needed. I have a brother with autism, and despite having autism myself, my needs for a safe space. For peace and quiet, for a stable environment were always ignored! I was shamed for needing stability or safety in my home... So yeah... Here I stand, about to turn 34, with nothing... No friends, no love life, a shitty job. But I'm convenient for my family. That's what I was always supposed to be.

I want to make them feel like I'm very loving and the only person who can love them that much is me

Right sir, thank you 🎉🎉🎉

I find that for myself, constantly moving in the morning, and eating less processed food helps boost the way i feel about myself

Thank you for these tips! As an adult, very very rarely I still find myself in random situations like this in public. that catch me off guard. It's so rare, it's sometimes difficult knowing how to respond because I'm not used to it. It's not fun when it happens. You think, WTF? Your tips are very helpful. I like it.

I said NO twice this week at work. They tried to convince me to work double shift. The NO felt unnatural but was necessary.

Realistically every person has limits. I can't, in fact, become a particle physicist because I lack the intelligence. It's the truth.

Dr. Aziz, thank you for that. Good suggestions and you are a good coach. I might be able to lead in some ways at work. I am sure of it. I just need the boss to let me and give me a chance. I want to hear more. What do you think?

I struggle with speaking up for myself a lot. Any key takeaways I can get from this video?

I have the right to say what I perceived and think. I felt like being Chinese, people did not want to hear what I thought, like it didn't matter to them.

I have a friend who’s been ignoring me lately, and I just texted him to tell him how I felt and he didn’t care. It made me feel so upset because I’ve known this person since I was 2. NO ONE SHOULD EVER HAVE TO GO THROUGH THIS

I have read your book ‘Not nice’, totally life changing. Hats off to you.

I have this issue in Tennis due to social anxiety , I play loose in training but once I have to play an important game I tense up and play within myself .

Spot on

Just discovered your channel. Working on improving my confidence. Thank you!

I never been mocked by this young woman, celeste dubois,for 3 years but I gave her $18 to help towards her rent, all I had because of car repairs she mocked me saying that how can buy anything with it, just bought a soda, I was her knight, on strip chat, it free and don’t get paid, it voluntarily , she de knighted me, maybe it’s for the best, you get mute people if they don’t tip, i will be saving a lot money towards my goals and dreams,how ever I told her straight, I wasn’t mocking her and the money was from goodness of my heart ❤I gave it voluntarily, she sick and tired of the frustration of constant problems so she decided to step up, I am still allowed to visit her room when I want, which a great thing, she live in Columbia, Adult sex cam, I still love her ❤we still have a bond

to the courage to be who I am and to know that deep down I am awesome. I am working on this energy pattern.

I will apply it.

I just hung out with two of my closest friends. Two of them spoke in detail about some of the darkest most painful details of their life tears, the whole lot, and when I began to share, they just got up and left. I then reminded them and told me I wanted to talk about it because they made me feel left out and that no one cared they just ignored me and went back to a party we where at at the time.

I along with my family are getting near the end of an 11 month long home renovation that was 5 years or more in the planning. We lived in the house for 20 years and I dreamed since we bought it about how we could ‘do it up’ and how amazing it would be. But it never got beyond a dream, because my husband & I had many ups & downs and neither of us are good at asking for what we want and making things happen. We go along to get along. We are easy to please. We don’t complain. I did love our house as it was the only house we ever owned and the biggest thing beside children we achieved. I felt safe from the world in that house. But eventually things started going wrong with it. The roof started leaking, every winter it got worse & worse. Damp patches appeared on the ceiling in the toilet and my son’s bedroom. Water poured down the walls and through the kitchen light. The porch framework started rotting. We basically had to get it fixed or lose it altogether. We got a bank loan (difficult), and a builder involved and paid thousands for plans, insurance and consent. Finally the builders started, tearing it down while we lived in it. We lived in it for around 4 months as they took the roof off and drilled and sawed. We kept our routines going and our cats safe with multiple workmen on site from early morning til evening. We eventually had to shift out. All through the process there have been decisions. Which roof, which doors, which windows, which colour paint, which door handles, which glass, which flooring, which carpet. This was v difficult and I took too long to decide. The hardest part though is having to ask the builder to make changes once we realise something we decided on wasn’t right and needed changing back. Asking for work to be undone makes me physically ill. But so does the idea of having to live with it forever. It literally feels as though I’m getting sick with anxiety over all these decisions, saying and asking for what I want. It goes against all my childhood and teen programming. Sometimes I’m not even sure if what I’ve asked for is even what I want. Its the most difficult thing I’ve ever done.

This is still one of the best advices for empathy

bro confidence no matter how good i feel i look in the mirror and smt is wrong bru

hey @getmoreconfidence do you think we could hop on a call sometime and maybe you could help me?

22:22 that helped me

I'm afraid of sex, I'm asexual, although I didn't discover that asexuality was a thing until I was in my 40's, by that time, I had been single for over 17 years, I'm nearly 60, I don't want sex, I'm undesirable so I don't have to worry about sex or relationships

“ It’s not eye contact problem, it’s self-esteem problem..” Thank you for this great video

Hi. First of all congratulations on your 100k subscribers. I have been following you since you had a very small family. So, really happy on your achievement. My question is, in order to boost our self esteem or confidence. We should constantly do the things we fear the rejection of. But won't we lose our self respect when people constantly reject us? Specially if they are the same people. Please reply.